NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Whilst that may sound incredibly complex, if you break the three words down, it’s exactly what it sounds like! ‘Neuro’ refers to the mind and how we organise our mental life; ‘linguistic’ is about language and how we use it and how it affects us… and ‘programming’ is about our sequences of repetitive behaviour and how we act with a purpose.
So NLP is about connection – for our thoughts, speech and actions, what connects us with others, ourselves and the world, both physical and spiritual.
There are 4 main principles in NLP:
1) Relationship or Rapport
Rapport can be enjoyed in your relationship with yourself and your relationship with others.
Ever found yourself torn between 2 courses of action… ‘Part of me wants to do that but something stops me?’ To be out of rapport makes us feel uncomfortable; the greater the mental rapport with yourself the more you feel at peace with yourself. The greater the physical rapport you have with yourself the greater your health and well-being.
We all know of people who have all the external trappings of success, yet are unhappy within themselves. Such people often make others uneasy too. It can be said that the quality of rapport we have with ourselves is often a mirror of what we achieve with others. Whatever you do and whatever you want, being successful will involve relating to and influencing others. Establishing and maintaining rapport is a key principle in achieving this.
Here at Winningminds’ we can help you make the personal changes you desire. Changes that let you be ‘you’, the person you want to be: a person who enjoys and maintains rapport with themselves. Freeing you to move on and establish rapport with others.
2) Know What You Want
Without knowing what you want, how can you even define what success is? And when will you know that you’ve got it? In NLP we call this setting your goal or outcome. Asking the question ‘What do I want?’ or ‘What do you want?’ is very different from asking ‘What’s the problem?’ as trying to fix a situation or apportion blame will not give you what you want, or help others get what they want either.
Here at Winningminds’ we can help you overcome the personal issues that are holding you back and preventing you from achieving what it is you really want and becoming the person you truly want to be.
3) Sensory Acuity
Sensory acuity is using all your senses to find out what is really happening to you: to look at, listen to and feeling what’s actually going on.
We have five senses: visual (sight), auditory (sound/hearing), kinaesthetic (feeling), gustatory (taste) and olfactory (smell). Each of us will have a bias towards one of these senses, in terms of how we receive the information that’s being given to us. This bias is often evident in the language we use: “I see what you mean.” “I hear you.” I can’t grasp that.”
Only by taking note of what all our senses are telling us can we really know whether or not we’re on course for our goal or not.
4) Behavioural Flexibility
The more choices of action you have, the more your chances of success. Keep changing what you are doing until you get what you want. Sounds logical? Think of the government policies that are repeatedly enforced even though they don’t have any effect. And how many times do you find yourself having the same arguments, doing the same things. And yes, find yourself digging deeper, and not out? If it ain’t working… STOP! And try something else.
Here at Winningminds’ we can help you focus on what is and what isn’t working for you. We can help you move forward; to discard unwanted negative behaviours or emotions and become the person you want to be.
NLP is the perfect partner to hypnosis. Not only does it support, reinforce and enhance the changework carried out under hypnosis, it also provides a framework for clarifying issues and defining the route to achieve the most favourable outcome.